I worshiped her for her hair.
And beautiful. Naturally beautiful.
Her name was Sandy.
She was a senior at Macalester College, and I was only a freshman; a chubby-cheeked, trying-too-hard freshman.
Those were tough days for me. My mother was a single parent and we didn't have money for dorm life. So, like a few other geeky nerd girls at Macalester, I attended classes during the day - and lived at home.
That wasn't the end of my suffering. I had other problems; chin acne, front teeth too big for my adolescent jaw.
And I still hadn't found the right bra to arrest my jiggle when I walked across campus.
It was 1969, and I was working hard on figuring out who I was and what I would do with my life.
Even then, even with all the silly post-adolescent distractions, I knew I wanted to die leaving behind something better. I wanted my college years to count - I wanted to become some one, some thing, some how.
And I wanted to do it looking more like Candace Bergen than Zelda Gilroy.
I grew up in corn-fed Minnesota, where girls with heavy, round faces and thin, floppy blond hair was the norm.
Surrounded by hair - and admirers
There was nothing heavy, round or floppy about Sandy. She was lean and lanky, a marvel of nature.
The rest of us lugged our back packs across campus, on our way to important lessons in political science and the history of civil unrest.
Sandy had a boyfriend.
I didn't worship her, however, for her smarts. I worshiped her for her hair.
The most striking thing about Sandy was her long straight, glistening curtain of gold. Parted in the middle, it fell down her back in a clear, unencumbered cascade of beauty.
It was the longest, most beautiful head of hair I've ever seen.
The first time I saw her was at the off campus student's hangout - the Grill at Macalester College. When she walked into the room the coolest guys dropped their cheese sandwiches - turned - and stared.
Wide, floppy bell bottoms, slung low on her narrow hips, arms free, moving in graceful cadence with each stride, Sandy was the quintessential flower child.
She strode to the center of the cafe, and sat on the floor. Within minutes, five, six other girls followed her lead. And so Sandy sat on the floor, surrounded by a few other girls, the boys who loved her - and her hair.
Six, eight, ten inches of steaming, flaxen silk lay around her. As she talked, laughed, listened, I watched her pick up a handful here, untangle the ends there, brush the dust from these golden strands and toss her hair back on the ground.
Wherever Sandy was, I couldn't look away. Something there was about her that fascinated me. How long did it take to grow her hair to her butt? And how did she keep it so glistening? So free? My hair landed on my shoulders and refused to grow further. What did she eat? Did she take vitamins? what was her secret?
All of this - and a man too.
And where did she meet her boyfriend?
Sandy became our homecoming queen.
My friends called him "Jeremy" - and that might have been his name.
Then again - it might have been Bob, for all I know. Jeremy was a fantasy name for the ideal hippie boy.
And his name didn't matter. Sandy and Jeremy were together, for all the world to see.
My friends and I were the world - and we were eager to see.
Macalester College - like every other institution of higher learning - went through an identity crisis in 1969.
The students - all of us - resisted traditions that represented the old order.
The cruel war was raging in Vietnam. When our boys graduated Macalester, if they didn't have decent deferments through marriage or a stint at seminary, they would be cannon fodder for the North Vietnamese.
With such considerations, we didn't take much stock in things like homecoming, football and the rituals of our dying innocence. We were focused on the weekly, silent, black-shirted protest we created every Wednesday on Grand Avenue; the "Honeywell Project," where we attempted to shut-down Minnesota's link to the arms industry; and the weekly protests throughout the city, shouting, singing and sitting for peace.
Macalester students didn't have time for homecoming.
I think it was Jeremy who first suggested it. The rest of us went along, gladly
Sandy became Macalester College's homecoming queen that year; the last homecoming queen in the history of the college.
I didn't go to the game - I didn't see Sandy crowned and celebrated. I wasn't a part of the community in those days - I didn't have anyone to sit with - the right poncho to wear.
And I didn't smoke dope.
Like so many other "off campus" students, I stayed home that night with my mom. We watched Perry Mason on television, made Chef Boyardee pizza and worked on the socks we knit each year for the rest of the family's Christmas.
I heard that Sandy and Jeremy got married.
"I do my thing - you do your thing - and if we meet each other, it's beautiful."
"For richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health - as long as we both shall love."
Sandy, wherever she is today - is in her late '60's.
Time marches on. . .
Old enough to be a grandmother.
She probably cut her long hair decades ago.
In my memory, however, she will always be Macalester's flower child; sitting on the floor, surrounded by the adoration and solicitation of lesser beings.
In my imagination, she is perpetual summer; shimmering and free.
The last of a tradition of women, and the last queen of my alma mater.